Prophet T.B Joshua’s wife, Evelyn, wouldn’t have it any other way. She’s happy her children are doing quite well and their father “is a great man”. They’ve been together for 25 blissful years. Lately, she celebrated her 47th birthday which she said was fun.
In this interview with Sunday Sun, she reflects on her life with the man of God and concluded it’s been worth it and gives Almighty God the glory. Excerpts:
How are you today?
I can see that you are happy and excited that your daughter, Sarah, was called to the bar today. But in a nutshell, just express your feelings.
I am very happy; it’s the desire of many parents to see their children succeed. I am happy she’s taking this step; she’s working hard towards her destiny, so it’s a great day for me and for her too.
Okay, do you know so many people don’t know that Prophet T.B Joshua has a wife let alone children? So, can you talk about the family?
At least you know now (laughs). I have heard that story before. Yes, I have heard that in the past but emm… it’s just one of those things. I don’t need to tell you but I think we have been together for the past 25 years now.
Please, tell us how you met.
Yes, I have said it before and it’s still the same. Hmmm… how do I call it? It’s just a divine arrangement. It’s a long story but anyway we met and the only surprising thing there was that, it was the day I met him that he proposed to me.
Wow, really? On his knees? How did he do it?
Straight forward (Laughs).
He said ‘I like you. I want to marry you’ just like that?
Yes, but really I was skeptical because it was strange, so, I just want to thank God that it really worked out. Like I said earlier, we have been together for the past 25 years and it’s working out fine.
Most people believe that pastors are not romantic. They fast and pray all the time. Is Prophet T. B Joshua romantic?
He’s a great man.
Great man on bed?
Hmmm… I don’t know. I wouldn’t know because no woman would love to discuss her husband to that level, but I think he’s a good man.
Okay, since you got married to him, what is it that you have learnt from him?
I have learnt a lot from him being a disciplined man. But I’m still learning anyway.
Having this type of cross-cultural marriage because I learnt you are from Delta State and he is from Ondo State, how did it happen? Did you have challenges?
In every marriage, there are always challenges. I don’t even see that as a problem because we are both Nigerians. Even when you marry from your tribe, even your hometown there will still be problems. But you know, with maturity and fear of God, you can go on.
Did your parents object to the union initially?
In every marriage you should expect that. That’s what keeps the marriage going. When you remember all the obstacles, you will want to make the marriage work. Honestly, you will want to do all you could to make it work. When you take a man or woman to your father’s house, you don’t expect everybody to welcome the person, but when you think of those people that say no, you will surely want to make it work.
When you were getting married, was he deep in religion like now?
Yes, I met him as a prophet. I told you I don’t want to go into details but I actually went to his place.
Okay, when you are angry, how does he calm you down? Does he buy you some nice gifts like jewelry?
I don’t know what you mean by angry.
That moment of tension, you know, like when church members are taking too much of his attention?
In fact, that is the first thing you have to understand. When you are married to a man of God, you have to know he’s a man of the people. So, that should be the basic thing you have to understand as wife of a prophet. There’s nothing like church members taking too much of his time, he has to do his work. I have never been angry about it and I can never be angry about it.
What of the other way round?
When he’s angry, how do you calm him down?
When he’s angry? (Laughs). There’s no man who doesn’t get angry but he shouldn’t allow his anger to lead him into sin, you understand? When it comes to expressing it, do so and let it end there, so that is it.
Some people don’t understand your husband, they say he’s a mysterious man with mysterious powers, when you read such stories, how do you react?
I know it’s not true. They don’t know him, he’s not a strange man, he’s not a mysterious man; he’s just dedicated to his work. He is a man who has the fear of God in him, that is it. Those stories don’t move me at all because they don’t seem to understand him.
So, what is that precious gift that he has ever given you, probably on your birthday?
Not even a gift per se, but words of wisdom, and I think that is all what life is all about. You find it, ignite it and use it. That is what your heart desires.
Some people say his favourite food is pounded yam, is that true?
No! (Laughs). Should I tell you? Emmmm… I know he likes beans and corn, you know, the beans cooked together with corn, you know that? He can take that at least twice a week. Yoruba call it “Adalu”.
When he wants to go for solid food, which one does he prefer?
Yes, swallow or whatever? He takes that too but beans and corn are his favourites.
Mama, do you feel fulfilled marrying a prophet and having three beautiful, intelligent children, all girls?
Yes, I feel fulfilled. I don’t even know I don’t have any son because I have lots of boys around me. In this part of the world, most especially, from where I am from, people cherish male children, but my husband didn’t give me any reason to think of that.
You mean you are not under pressure from him or his family to have male children?
Not at all! I believe when you make that a problem, you begin to see it as a problem before you. But it’s not a problem to me at all.
Could you please tell us the secret behind your youthfulness, nobody will believe you have these grown-ups?
How would you describe style, what is style to you?
Style is just for the one who fears God. That’s the way I see style.
I can see you donning some nice jewelry. Are you a jewelry freak?
Not really. You know, when time permits, I can just have them.
Are you comfortable in local or designer wears?
I just go with things I’m comfortable with. I don’t look for designers everywhere; I wear anything I’m comfortable with.